The Ins and Outs of Play Parties

Name: The Ins and Outs of Play Parties
Start: 2026-04-29T02:00:00.000Z
End: 2026-04-29T04:00:00.000Z
Location: Private Venue

Private Venue
Oakland
Tuesday, Apr 28th
7 PM - 9 PM PDT
Organized by TurnON.love

The Ins and Outs of Play Parties

Sex parties, aka play parties, are a provocative way to explore your sexuality and relationships, experiment with different fantasies or desires, and discover new aspects of yourself. They offer an empowering opportunity to challenge societal taboos while connecting with others who also question the status quo. However, without the proper preparation, play parties can also feel intimidating and intense. Whether flying solo or with a partner, learn how to feel confident navigating play parties and maximize your ability to experience pleasure and fun!

In this experiential workshop with intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love you will:

Address common anxieties, fears, and misconceptions surrounding play parties and the reframes that will alleviate your anxieties.
Discover a plethora of tips and tricks for meeting new people and making nourishing connections.
Receive valuable insights on attending play parties solo or alongside a partner.
Learn how to navigate consent culture and play party etiquette so you feel empowered and safe
Tackle potential challenges and develop tactics for navigating them before, during, and after parties.

Play parties may seem daunting but they can also be exciting and rewarding. The practical guidance, captivating anecdotes, and interactive exercises in this workshop will equip you to explore play parties with confidence and skill!

Plus, check out Navigating Non-Monogamy: Level 1 on April 14th and Mastering Non-Monogamy: Level 2 on April 21st

Can’t attend in-person on these dates? Rent the on-demand versions!

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Reviews

“This class enabled my partner and I to level up our communication in ways we never anticipated! We deeply enjoy Dr. Aly’s classes, but this one changed our relationship dramatically. At last, we have language around how to deal with our conflicts, to drop into the moment, and to help each other feel deeply seen and loved.” - S.W.

“Dr. Aly’s repair workshop was excellent. She teaches a template to have a difficult conversation and keep it on track even when emotions are flying. The class was a good mix of talk time and experiential time, and we got to interact with others in the class in a safe environment!” - J.D.

“What I learned has been incredibly useful in helping me to navigate difficult conversations. I found the information, the tips and the opportunity to practice so helpful. I have definitely noticed a difference in how I react and respond, and it has been incredibly powerful.” -R.C.

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Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She has helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer and trans identities and experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in the Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. She invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

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Important Information

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

* This venue is partially accessible. The workshop space is wheelchair accessible, but the bathrooms are not. There is a gender inclusive bathroom on site.

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Upcoming Events

How to Eat Pussy like a Champ

April 12th in Oakland, also available as an on-demand rental

Givers will learn how to discover what turns their lover(s) on and explore a wide range of techniques for maximizing pleasure. Receivers will learn how to surrender into sensation while also taking a more active role in cultivating their own pleasure. Discover all the nerve pathways involved so you can understand the different kinds of orgasms possible as well as science-based techniques for how to explore them. Plus, there's a thorough live demo so you can see all the skills put into action. Both individuals and couples are welcome!

Navigating Non-Monogamy: Level 1

April 14th in Oakland, also available as an on-demand rental

Exploring non-monogamy can feel overwhelming and even terrifying, but with the proper support and tools it can be exciting and empowering! Learn about the many ways to structure non-monogamy and examine how your values and needs influence which relationship styles will work best for you. Explore how to open up and find poly people to date. Discover the most common pitfalls and how to avoid them. Gain concrete tips that will help your relationship(s) survive and thrive. With these resources, suggestions, and tools, you’ll receive the support you need to explore ethical non-monogamy with greater clarity and ease!

Mastering Non-Monogamy: Level 2

April 21st in Oakland, also available as an on-demand rental

Empower yourself with the insights, skills, and tools you need to have secure and fulfilling non-monogamous relationships. Discover strategies for navigating jealousy and how to support a partner when they're feeling jealous. Examine power dynamics in and across various types of relationship structures, and learn how to empower all participants. Explore techniques for discussing fears and needs and negotiating agreements with lovers and partners. Gain tips for having healthy dynamics with metamours (your partners’ partners). Up level your ability to maintain multiple nourishing relationships!

Couples Retreat - Sustainable Intimacy: Fuel Passion for Lasting Love

April 23rd-26th in Sonoma, also available as an on-demand rental

Navigating mismatched libidos, feeling stuck in routines, or just craving more playfulness and pleasure are natural parts of growing together over time. In long-term relationships, it’s common to feel desire ebb and flow, to relate to sex like it’s a chore, or to quietly build up feelings of rejection or resentment. Even loving, connected couples can struggle with differences in desires, changing needs, or the pressures of daily life crowding out time for intimacy. Whether you're looking to rekindle passion or simply carve out meaningful time to nourish your relationship, this 3-night, 4-day retreat offers a spacious and supportive container to expand your erotic potential and strengthen the emotional and physical bonds between you.

You'll:

Break Free from Stagnant Patterns: Learn how to move beyond the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle that can stifle intimacy.
Uncover & Overcome Libido Blockers: Identify what’s getting in the way of your desire, pleasure, and connection—and learn how to dissolve those barriers.
Master the Art of Intimacy Bids: Explore how to make verbal, physical, and romantic invitations that genuinely woo your partner and spark connection.
Create Fun & Exciting Intimacy Dates: Receive a curated menu of ways to connect authentically—without pressure or performance.
Rediscover Your Turn-On & Pleasure: Engage in practices that will expand your capacity to both give and receive pleasure in ways that feel deeply fulfilling.
Sustainable Intimacy Toolkit: Take home a 35-page Sustainable Intimacy booklet filled with reflection exercises and personalized practices to continue nurturing your intimacy.
Indulge in Rejuvenating Experiences: Enjoy delicious meals, a heated pool and hot tub, scenic trails, a movement and mindfulness class, a couples massage class, group coaching, a bonus workshop on passionate, romantic, and dominant touch, a sensual soirée, and more
Choose from a Variety of Accommodation Options: Choose from camping and glamping for an immersive nature experience to gorgeous private rooms, including one with a private sauna and soaking tub overlooking the woods.