The Privilege We Hold w/ Mr. O

As we get experience in the kink scene, we often don’t see the privilege that we are gaining. We will look at ways to check in on ourselves, to help us stay ethical as our power relative to others grows. Whether we’re an organizer, presenter or just the most experienced player in the room, we enjoy a level of privilege that can have profound effects on negotiations, access to partners, and our interactions in general. We’ll discuss ways of honestly assessing our position and influence, so we can mitigate these power differentials and avoid taking advantage of them.

Presenter Bio:

Mr O is a creative sadist with a love of medical play, a penchant for violent grappling scenes, and a very cute bum. Having spent over two decades as a jiu jitsu competitor and instructor, he has found ways to apply his knowledge of body mechanics to kinky play and shares that in his teaching. Active in the Canadian BDSM scene since 2005, he regularly puts on workshops internationally as well as locally in the Toronto, Montreal and Ottawa areas on subjects including wrestling, grappling and medical play. With an engineering based background and scientific mind, he is known for continually inventing new devices and ways to hurt people “for science”. When he’s not being nice he can be a bit mean. And vice versa.

Mr O believes strongly that successful scenes start with careful negotiation, and so teaches workshops and private classes on negotiation and consent.

Class Notes:

This class is offered only as a virtual class.

About Society of Janus

Society of Janus is and has always been an organization made up of the community and in service to the community. We are stronger for our diversity, including adults of all genders, orientations, colors, ethnicities, roles, and experience levels. We welcome all who have a genuine interest in kink and who respect each other's rights to self-expression, self-exploration, and authenticity. At each and every one of our events, we will strive to maintain and enforce a respectful and safe space for all attendees in celebration of this diversity, and expect the same of all attendees.

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The Society of Janus is a not-for-profit, all volunteer, San Francisco-based education and support organization devoted to the art of hot, consensual and non-exploitative BDSM.

Janus provides an opportunity to meet others with similar interests in a safe, relaxed atmosphere. Society of Janus is open to people of all genders, sexual orientations, roles, and experience levels. Janus members are from all over the SF Bay Area. We host and sponsor events in many locations around the bay.