Transforming The Shame Triangle | A daylong workshop

Join Jessica Fern and David Cooley for a daylong participatory workshop based on their new book, "Transforming the Shame Triangle".

The Shame Triangle is an inner constellation of parts: an Inner Critic that attacks, a Shame Part that absorbs the criticisms, and Escaper Parts that try to avoid the pain through strategies like overfunctioning, perfectionism, zoning out, substances, or lashing out. Together, these roles create a closed loop that keeps us trapped in survival patterns, disconnected from others, and cut off from our authenticity and Self-wisdom.

In this daylong workshop, participants will learn how to recognize and map their own Shame Triangle, understand how it has been shaped by culture and legacy burdens, and begin the process of transformation. With guidance, participants will practice shifting out of the Shame Triangle and into what we call the Inner Love Triangle—where the Critic becomes a supportive Inner Coach, the Escapers evolve into Inner Nurturers, and the Shame Part transforms into emotional awareness that deepens connection with ourselves and strengthens how we show up in relationships.

By the end of the day, participants will leave with practical skills, embodied experiences, and a newly found sense of compassion for themselves and their relationships.

Participants will:

1. Map their personal Shame Triangle and uncover its recurring patterns
2. Practice guided parts work to meet and transform your Inner Critic, Shame, and Escaper parts
3. Engage in relational exercises and small‑group practices for deeper connection and reflection
4. Witness live demonstrations of parts work
5. Walk away with tools for cultivating Self‑leadership and creating relational pathways out of shame

LOGISTICS:

🕘 Workshop starts at 9 am and ends at 4:30 pm

🏙️ Workshop is held in an event space in Oakland, CA

🌯 You are responsible for your food plan, including lunch and snacks

🙋‍♀️ Workshop includes lectures, self-reflection, independent work, and small group discussions.

📚 Participants will receive a copy of Jessica and David's new book, "Transforming the Shame Triangle".