Bonobo Network presents: VIBE (BIPOC Only Event) Theme TBA

🗓️ Date: Sunday December 14, 2025 12pm-8pm

📍 Location: Mission Control, Oakland, CA, address released in final details email

TICKET LAUNCH DATE COMING SOON

We’re back for another daytime VIBE — where the sun shines, the music moves, and the energy flows just right.

✨ Theme and details coming soon!

Save the date and gather your crew!

»»» Introducing VIBE!

Hey friends,

I’m William Winters and I’m one of the cofounders of Express Yourself. Express Yourself has been an incredible resource for Black and Brown folks exploring the joys and anxieties of sexuality in a community environment. Over the years, the folks who poured their hearts into creating the Express Yourself parties helped create some of the warmest play spaces I’ve had the pleasure of experiencing and was part of a vibrant emerging ecosystem of sex-positive events built by and for folks of color that included KPOC, SOUL, Black Kink Bay Area, and others.

Recently Express Yourself hasn’t run as frequently as had been planned at the beginning of the year. Rebecca, the remaining organizer, had changing life circumstances and insufficient logistical support to keep it going on her own.

So I’m announcing that Express Yourself is officially becoming part of Bonobo Network (which I also founded), and it’s getting a new name and new leadership while retaining some of the features that made it special. It’s still a POC-exclusive party. It still uses the PAL system, so Bonobo Network membership isn’t required. And we still expect that the parties will take place about quarterly.

Meet the new producer, Scott! He’s been a dedicated member of our community, volunteering and building meaningful relationships for a couple years. Now, he’s excited to curate unique party experiences for our BIPOC community. Here’s some of what he has to say about what VIBE is...

»»» What is VIBE

Welcome to VIBE, a reimagined experience designed to create a space of celebration. VIBE stands for Versatile Inclusion, Bold Expressions, embodying a space where diversity thrives, creativity flourishes, and every voice is heard.

Versatile Inclusion: At VIBE, we embrace the rich tapestry of cultures, identities, and experiences that people of color bring to the table. Our events are crafted to be inclusive and welcoming, ensuring that everyone feels seen, valued, and respected. Whether you’re here to dance, connect, or simply be yourself, VIBE is your space to shine.

Bold Expressions: VIBE is all about celebrating the unique and powerful ways BIPOC express themselves. From vibrant performances and art showcases to dynamic discussions and interactive activities, our events are a platform for bold, unapologetic self-expression. We encourage you to bring your full self to the party and share your story with the world.These exclusive parties are dedicated solely to BIPOC, providing a safe and empowering environment where folks of color can connect, celebrate, and express themselves freely.

Join us at VIBE, where every moment is an opportunity to connect, create, and celebrate the beauty of diversity. Let’s make every event a testament to the power of Versatile Inclusion and Bold Expressions.

For our purposes, we define "person of color" as people who have lived experiences as a racial minority in the United States. At least one birth parent was perceived and treated as a person of color, or would have been were they in the United States.

This party is for people with all levels of experience, from the merely curious or questioning to the most experienced swingers; from the decidedly monogamous to the most committed polyamorists. We welcome people representing every sexual preference, gender expression, and body type. None of us are getting free until we all get free.

»»» PAL System

VIBE uses the PAL system which will allow more BIPOC folks get a taste for our community. Bonobo's with active memberships do not need a PAL.

PAL stands for Pervy Activity Liaison (thanks to Polly Superstar of Kinky Salon and Mission Control for the term.) A PAL is a trusted friend (doesn’t have to be a date) who attends an event with you. PALs are responsible for each others’ behavior – if someone behaves in a way that negatively impacts the space, it reflects poorly on all of the PALs. And if we ask someone to leave an event for any reason, their PALs must exit as well. In this way, it not only ensures that people who are new to the community have a social anchor, it also ensures that everyone feels accountable to someone, which tends to encourage great behavior.

Who Needs a PAL for VIBE?

1. Active Bonobo members do NOT need a PAL. You’re welcome to attend solo if you would like.
2. Non-members MUST have a PAL to attend – even if you were previously a member.
3. Two non-members CAN be each other’s PALs as long as they know and trust each other.

PAL Guidelines:

1. Arrive & leave with a trusted friend (not necessarily a date).
2. Your PAL can be of any gender, a couple, or a group—as long as you all agree to be responsible for each other.
3. You are responsible for your PAL’s behavior, and they are responsible for yours.
4. You must know and trust your PAL—you cannot PAL with a stranger.If either of you violate consent or event agreements, both of you will be held accountable.

PAL Frequently Asked Questions