Wrapt: “Self-Tying with Shay” - An AfterDark Rope Jam

Hosted by Bluhbluhhugeb, TinyScreams, IguanaBonds, and G_Jessie

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Our March skill-share welcomes Shay Tiziano to present “Compression & Tension for Self-Tie Flow”. This is a welcoming, raw-beginner-level class. As always, the full dungeon will be open if you’d rather skip the skill-share and get to tying.

Self-tying is a pick-your-path adventure: chase big sensation, drop into deep mindfulness, level up your partnered bondage skills, or create Instagram-ready rope art. Learn more with the person who (literally) wrote the book on it! We’ll kick things off with Shay’s Safety Speed Round (so she can sleep at night) and a conversation about intention and flow. Attendees will learn the essential building blocks of a lark’s head and a half hitch and practice tension basics with rope handling exercises. Learning to tie without a foundation of rope handling is like hunt-and-peck typing: technically functional, but we can do better (and learn practical ties at the same time)! From there, we’ll explore compression-based self-ties involving shape, sensation, and aesthetic intention. Attendees will experiment with variations on a leg tie, chest tie, and deliciously intense foot and calf self-bondage.

Wrapt is a rope jam for people of all skill levels to meet other rope enthusiasts and explore, learn, practice, and play. Each jam will begin with an opening circle to go over the basic intentions for the space. This will be followed by an optional beginner-friendly skill-share/demonstration and open tying time.

Loaner rope will be available to borrow; come make use of our fantastic venue Stopgap and the many hardpoints available!

Wrapt is a rope jam for people of all skill levels to meet other rope enthusiasts and explore, learn, practice, and play. Each jam will begin with an opening circle to go over the basic intentions for the space. This will be followed by an optional beginner-friendly skill-share/demonstration and open tying time.

Loaner rope will be available to borrow; come make use of our fantastic venue Stopgap and the many hardpoints available!

Doors open at 6:30 PM. No late entry after 10:30 PM.

Venue & Accessibility

This event will be held at Stopgap in San Francisco. The address will be provided to ticket holders for privacy and safety reasons. For planning purposes, it is in SOMA and a 10 minute walk from the UN Plaza/Civic Center BART station.

Stopgap is a historic space in the SF kink community, near 9th and Mission, transformed by club lighting and an ambient music backdrop, this event promises an atmosphere where you can relax, learn, and play freely. The venue consists of a ground floor and basement; the basement is only accessible via stairs and has ample space and mats for floor ties and at least 14 hardpoints for those ready to practice suspension bondage.

The ground floor is accessible with two accessible bathrooms, lockers, and a social space. The discussion/skillshare will be hosted on the ground floor, and mats will be made available there for floor ties. A suspension rig can be set up on the ground floor for those with mobility needs by advance request. Please reach out by email to info@afterdark-events.com.

Event Rules & Guidelines

1. Ask for affirmative consent before touching another person or their things, engaging in play, or escalation of play.
2. Don’t cruise for play. Emphasize skill sharing, learning, and respectful socializing.
3. Depending on the number of attendees, available play spaces may be limited. Be prepared to wait or get creative with your playspace.
4. Clean your play spaces after using them.
5. This is a sensual, not sexual space. Penetration with toys, fingers or other body parts, vigorous genital touch, and oral sex are not allowed. We ask that you play with the intention of centering your rope practice, managing your energy in scene and not disrupting other scenes. Keep scene volume below the volume of the music.
6. While other forms of kink furniture may be present, Wrapt is a rope jam specifically; please respect that intention. Feel free to explore rope and other activities together however!
7. Photography of your own scenes are permitted with the consent of everyone in the photo and prior discussion will be done with them (posting, tagging, etc.)
8. Breathplay is not allowed. Additionally, please read our AfterDark & Stopgap Neck Rope Definition Announcement.

The rules and guidelines are in addition to the general AfterDark Events rules/guidelines found here.

New to rope and don’t know how to tie? Join the optional beginner focused instructional session at 7:30PM!

Entry

Presale tickets are recommended to save money and secure your spot. If you haven’t been to Stopgap before, you must buy a presale ticket to receive the venue address. If you have been to Stopgap before, you have the option of purchasing a ticket at the door.

1. Tickets are $25 in advance, or $35 at the door.
2. No Refunds. All sales are Final.

Inclusivity

Our events are inclusive celebrations where people of different ages, races, ethnicities, gender expressions, gender identities, sexualities, and abilities hold space together. We expect all guests to honor the diversity of our communities and we will not tolerate behavior or language to the contrary at our events.

About the Hosts

@bluhbluhhugeb (he/him) is a service-oriented switch who loves rope. He has been exploring rope since late 2021 through events/classes in the Bay Area and at kink conventions across the country. He is an active member of the local kink community and volunteers for a number of local kink organizations.

Ann (he/him) is a rope nerd/switch who has a great affection for empathetic-sensual tying. Originally fascinated by the erotic roots and aesthetics of rope bondage, he has been studying and practicing rope in Taiwan and Japan since 2016, and is currently active in the Bay Area as a community member and volunteer. He is passionate about rope education for everyone, and also wishes to hold space for discussions beyond techniques on challenges and nuisances people face in their rope journeys! Find him on FL @TinyScreams and IG @annsfriedrice

@IguanaBonds (she/her) is a rope switch who supports Wrapt through volunteering while constantly building her rope top skills, laughing through suffering ties, and fangirling over fat people in rope. She identifies as equal part lizard sprawled on a rock in the sun and Team Mom. She’s been studying rope since early 2023.

@G_Jessie (she/her) is a top-leaning rope switch who started as a rope bottom a few years ago. Since late 2022, she has focused on tying sensual rope and predicament, blending traditional and modern shibari. She aims to create empowering, emotionally resonant experiences. Active in the Bay Area rope community, she supports Wrapt by fostering collaboration, creativity, and connection among fellow enthusiasts.