Write Your Erotic Handbook

A 1-day, in-person workshop for sexual self-discovery

Sep 14, 2025 10am-5pm

East Bay Community Space - Telegraph Room

507 55th St, Oakland, CA 94609

GET TICKETS HERE: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/write-your-erotic-handbook-tickets-1393372708279?aff=oddtdtcreator

Ticket price: $250 (Bonobo members get a discount!)

Event Description:

Talking about what you want in bed can feel daunting — and you're not alone. It's one of the most common struggles people have when it comes to communication. Maybe you’ve never had the space to explore your desires on your own terms. Maybe your wants feel mysterious, hard to name, or tangled up in what someone else has offered you. Maybe no one ever told you that the things you crave even have names.

Before you can ask for what you want, you need to know what that is.

Write Your Erotic Handbook is a guided, immersive experience designed to help you uncover and name your desires — from the subtle to the bold, the tender to the wild. This isn’t about writing a personal ad or trying to impress anyone else. It’s about getting to the heart of you.

In this one-day workshop, you’ll:

1. Explore the building blocks of your arousal and core erotic themes
2. Tune into sensation, fantasy, and emotion through guided writing, simple games, and body-based practices
3. Discover how you like to be touched, what makes you feel cherished, and what gets you truly turned on
4. Learn frameworks and language to make your desires speakable and shareable — in ways that are true to you

You'll leave with a personalized Erotic Handbook — a creative, written reflection of your unique turn-ons, preferences, and pleasures — whether you choose to share it with others or keep it just for yourself.

We’ll also make space for nuanced desires, including if you are kinky, queer, or non-monogamous. And yes, there will be a sexy playlist or two to keep things flowing.

This is a playful, profound day of coming home to your erotic self — with support, structure, and plenty of room to explore.

Things to know

1. Please bring a notebook and/or your laptop, or whatever you would like to use to create your handbook.
2. Wear comfortable clothes that you can sit and move comfortably in.
3. Please do not wear artificial scents (e.g. perfume, scented lotion, aftershave).
4. There will be short breaks throughout the day, and an hour for lunch
5. In addition to the live class where we will work on our handbooks together, you will also get access to the online course with all of the handbooks sections, links to quizzes and assessments, and bonus materials.

Any questions please reach out to Info@askingforwhatyouwant.com

If you are interested in learning more about Bonobo Network and getting a discount to this event, you can join here: https://www.bonobonetwork.com/apply