Bonobo Network Presents: Mixtape Makeout

Our 3rd party celebrating Bonobos over 50. Open to 40-somethings who are 50s-curious, and partners of any age!

🗓 Date: Saturday, March 7th 3PM - 9PM

📍 Location: The Enterprise, San Francisco, CA

SAVE THE DATE! TICKET LAUNCH THURSDAY February 12th at 7pm

Eventbrite: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/bonobo-network-presents-mixtape-makeout-tickets-1982809554754?aff=oddtdtcreator

Password: stereolove

Our 3rd party celebrating Bonobos over 50. Open to 40-somethings who are 50s-curious, and partners of any age!

Back by popular demand: Mixtape Makeout, a party celebrating Bonobos over 50 and those who wanna get with them.

Mixtape Makeout, a play party for Bonobos over 50, and those antique-adjacent. Whether you celebrate your maturity or refuse to age gracefully, this is the event to let your hair down (what’s left of it) to mix, mingle, and mash with people who remember when a mixtape was the ultimate love letter. And still be home for the early news.

Join us in San Francisco, at a quirky 5-story 90s time capsule in Bernal Heights, reminiscent of a spaceship. We’ll set the stage for a flirty fun, sexy connection games and plenty of opportunities to vibe with others who get your cultural references. We may even reinvent and remix them!

If you have any questions, reach out to us in the Plura thread. But here’s a few Q’s and A’s to get you started:

Q: Is this exclusively for people over 50?

A: All are welcome, especially those 40-somethings who are 50s-curious and partners of any age

Q: Is this a second-base party?

A: No, we’re here for all bases to be fully explored. With high possibility, low expectations, of course.

Q: Can I make a mixtape to share?

A: YES! We’ll be curating music from playlists submitted by attendees. More details to come.

IMPORTANT: Your Eventbrite confirmation email will contain relevant details for attending this event. Check your email - including your spam folder - for a message from noreply@eventbrite.com. Please read this email IN FULL and instruct any guests for whom you may have purchased tickets to do the same!

»»» Connect on Plura

Want to see who's going, match, chat, and meet the community? CLICK HERE TO CONNECT ON PLURA.

»»» The Bonobo Meetup & Mixtape Makeout Meetup!

Join us at The Bonobo Meetup on 2/24 and Mixtape Makeout Meetup on 3/3! Meetups are a fantastic way to get to know each other with our clothes on and in a low-pressure environment. You're welcome to bring friends and lovers who've never been to a Bonobo event but who may be interested!

»»» Venue Accessibility

Not ADA accessible home. House is on a hill, 3 steps up into the house, stairs up to second and third levels and down to garage storage level. No elevators or lifts.

There is a cat in the home, so if you're allergic please prepare accordingly. We'll also have allergy meds onsite.

»»» Volunteering

Volunteering is a great way to meet other Bonobos, and volunteer tickets have discounts baked into them as a thank you for your contribution. Available roles include:

Pre-Party

• Setup (Saturday 1pm -3pm)

During Party

• Food Support (60 minutes at the beginning of the party)
• Greeting (90 minute shifts before and during party)
• Angel Crew (60 minute shifts during party)
• Cleaning (60 minute shifts during party)

Post-Party

• Strike (Saturday 9pm - 11pm)

»»» Registration + Tickets

Tickets for our standard members will be on a sliding scale starting at $75.

Tickets will be on a sliding scale starting at $65 for PrimeMates, our premium members. [PRIMEMATE MEMBERS: You have a special code that you received when you became a member. Use that for your discount.]

IMPORTANT!

If you're purchasing more than one ticket, please make sure each individual attending is named!

Once you purchase your ticket, your Eventbrite confirmation email will contain all relevant details for attending this event. Check your email - including your spam folder - for a message from noreply@eventbrite.com. Please read this email in full and instruct any guests for whom you may have purchased tickets to do the same!

»»» Our Ticketing Pricing Policy

Supporting Our Community: No One Turned Away for Lack Of Funds (NOTAFLOF) Changes - Action Required (see below)

As we continue to grow and create memorable experiences together, we want to share some important updates regarding the way we manage tickets for our events. Thank you for your feedback about access to tickets and creating ease around ticket transfers. We hope these changes provide a lot better user experience. We are also providing clearer guidelines about use of NOTOFLOF codes and a new request system for those who use those codes. NOTAFLOF Codes are by Request Only.

Please use this form before the event to request a NOTAFLOF discount code. You can then apply this code on the day of the ticket drop: Request a NOTAFLOF discount code here

25% Off: For those with moderate financial needs. Examples might include:

• Those with some medical expenses not covered by insurance.
• Individuals who have periodic financial difficulties but can generally manage their expenses.

50% Off: For those with significant financial constraints. Examples might include:

• Those with limited income or support.
• Individuals with large, ongoing medical expenses or disabilities.

»»» Inviting your Friends

Want to invite a friend to this or future parties? Great! They'll need to become a member. Invite them to learn more about us and apply at https://bonobonetwork.com/apply

If you know someone really well, you can let us know that by endorsing their application. The standard for endorsement is high, as is the bar for membership. Your friends should FULLY understand Bonobo Network's culture, especially around consent.

Who we're looking for:

• They should be broadly familiar with their boundaries and be able to set boundaries with others.
• They should be able to resolve conflicts gracefully, generously, and empathetically.
• They're someone you trust to be accountable to you and to this community.
• Ideally, you trust them implicitly, and you would either play with them yourself or recommend that your friends play with them at the party.

You would feel comfortable staking your reputation on their being a good fit for our community. (NOTE: This is different from feeling confident that they would enjoy themselves or get something out of the experience.)

»»» Covid Policy

We no longer require proof of vaccination. You must take a covid test before the event.

Your COVID testing options are:

• Present a timestamped photo of a covid rapid antigen test taken the day of the event at the door.
• Present the results of a PCR test administered within 48 hours of the party.
• Bring your own COVID test to take on site. If you use this option, please wear a mask into the venue. There will be a limited supply of rapid tests available for purchase - PLEASE BRING YOUR OWN.

If you need to take a COVID test onsite, you must wear a mask.

»»» Incident Reporting

If your boundaries are crossed at the party, if a Bonobo member acts in ways that are not in accordance with our culture and values, or even if someone just kinda creeps you out, please report the incident to an angel or party host. We also encourage you to file an incident report online at http://bit.ly/bonoboincidentreport.

Incident reports aren't just for consent violations at Bonobo events. If people are behaving in the ways described above outside of parties, it can be helpful for organizers to know.

»»» Bonobo Network Principles

What began as a series of small parties in Summer 2010 has grown into a community that has served 3,000 people around the Bay Area and the world. Our community is united by the following principles, which inform how we orient towards the spaces we share and how we treat one another:

High Possibility, Low Expectation: Our communities are best when they're treated as high possibility, low expectation spaces. That means two things: first, that all kinds of awesome sexy interactions are possible, but that no one should be expected to interact with you in any particular way. No one owes you anything. Second, we often attend these events with an expectation of the type or quality of experience we should have. While anything is possible, you'll probably have a much better experience if you lose those expectations of yourself and open yourself up to the abundance of connection of all kinds available to you at the party. Low expectation DOES NOT mean "low desire" – we believe it's helpful to have a well-explored and articulated sense of what you want and to hold those desires lightly.

Trust and Integrity: Parties like ours are built on trust – that's what allows us to be as open and welcoming and vulnerable as we can be inside those spaces. But this requires that we all show up in full integrity, pledging to be our most trustworthy. Three important implications of this : keep the identities of folks at our events confidential, proactively disclose relevant safer sex risks, and take exquisite care of the venues, spaces, and neighborhood ecosystems that host us.

Consent: We agree that we will only physically engage with one another, including nonsexual touch, where there is CLEAR CONSENT. We define consent as an ongoing collaboration between two or more people in constant verbal, physical, and emotional dialogue about what each other needs to safely, willingly, and pleasurably interact with one another. Gold standard consent in Bonobo Network is affirmative, informed, unpressured, specific, competently given, and ongoing. Respecting and valuing consent isn't just about preventing violations that shred trust -- it's also about making sure that everyone has as much space as they need to fully occupy their yes. Please read our Consent and Accountability Policy (https://bit.ly/bonoboconsentpolicy) for more details on how we approach consent and accountability.

High Challenge, High Support: Play parties can be challenging and emotionally complex, even for seasoned veterans. We’re committed to making the play parties we throw high challenge, high support environments. We come together to celebrate and play at our edges. To fully support that endeavor, we provide a dedicated nonsexual space at each party for folks who need to get away from the intensity of the gathering. It means recruiting a team of angels who are available to provide counseling and social support throughout the party. And it means encouraging everyone who attends to commit to being an angel for everyone around them.

H ere's a guide to have a pre-party conversation with your sweetie(s) to make your party go smoothly for both of you: https://bit.ly/beingpartyready

Everyone Contributes: Parties like this are never the work of a single organizer -- it takes the participation and contribution of a host of people. Everyone who attends is expected to co-create the party: money, time, energy, enthusiasm, work, intention, example, concern and/or awareness.

Inclusion: We are dedicated to fostering inclusion in our community. No matter your race, ethnicity, gender identity, or class background, we want everyone who participates in this community to understand that they belong here, and that they have as much of a stake in what happens here as anyone else does. While we recognize that everyone is on a learning curve when it comes to learning how to foster such an atmosphere, we also commit to a stance of learning -- and supporting one another's learning -- of how to be excellent to one another.

This is a dynamic list, ever growing, changing, and deepening as this grand experiment in connection continues. Thanks to you all for playing mad scientist with us.