Exploring non-monogamy can feel overwhelming and downright terrifying, but with the proper preparation and support it can be exciting and empowering! You don’t have to navigate this tricky terrain alone.
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Join sex and intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love for this experiential workshop and you will:
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With these resources, suggestions, and tools you’ll receive the support you need to explore ethical non-monogamy with greater clarity and ease!
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A suggested but not required follow-up to this workshop
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“This workshop placed my experience, which is limited in time and scope, in the larger universe of non-monogamy. It energized me and answered so many questions I did not know I had, that would have taken me years alone to tackle! I can't wait to attend the next class, they're life changing!” - G.N.
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“Navigating Non-Monogamy gave me a new understanding of myself and my needs, current and past partners, resources available, ethics in dating, and so much more. I walk away with insights that not only help me, but they help me support my friends in their relationships. Dr. Aly’s workshops have been life-changing for me.” - A.B.
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“This workshop provides specifics on how to identify challenges faced by participants and means to address them. For those who already practice ethical non-monogamy, this workshop can really help, for those who are about to embark, this workshop is a must.” - J.M.
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Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She has helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer and trans identities and experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves.
Sebastian aka Seb is a certified TurnON.love sex and intimacy coach and educator. In addition to the extensive training he’s received from Dr. Alison Ash, the founder of TurnON.love, Seb has training from The Sexual Health Alliance, which is an AASECT accredited coaching program. Seb has two decades of experience of working with autistic folks, and specializes in supporting neurodivergent people and their partners to have fulfilling intimacy. He works with a wide range of clients supporting them to have the kinds of sexual interactions and romantic relationships they desire. Seb also works as a certified trauma-informed massage therapist, supporting his clients with embodiment, nervous system regulation, and naming wants and needs.
Dr. Aly and Seb design workshops, courses, and retreats and offer individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram.
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* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.
* We welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, races and ethnicities. The bathroom at this venue is not ADA accessible (may not be large enough for folks in wheelchairs).
* A limited number of volunteer and sliding scale tickets are available. Apply for a sliding scale ticket or send an email to coordinator@turnon.love to volunteer.
* Please note tickets are not refundable. You may transfer them to another pair of individuals but not to a future event.
For more info, visit www.TurnON.love
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Feb 20th, Oakland
What better way to learn practical sex education that you can actually use when you get home than to watch two sex educators go head-to-head and reveal their best moves? Join me and world-renowned sex and relationship geek Reid Mihalko for an evening of LIVE demonstrations and watch as we share our personal stories and bedroom secrets! Sex Educator Showdown is an entertaining, informational, guaranteed-to-be-funny and friendly “competitive” throw down you don’t want to miss!
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February 23rd, Oakland
We will be your Head Deans (see what we did there?!) and give you your PhD in oral so you can give and/or receive mind-blowing blowjobs, cunnilingus, and analingus that leaves you and your lovers feeling satisfied, confident, and glowing with appreciation! This workshop will take your current craft & skills to Jedi levels with our advanced-level tips and techniques! Oral Sex Grad school is a wealth of sex geekery and skills in expert giving and receiving!
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March 19th in Oakland
Also available as an on-demand rental
Do you get stuck in your head worrying about your appearance, performance, orgasm, or just your overwhelming to-do list? Do you find yourself performing sex instead of experiencing it? Learning how to get out of your head and into your body is essential for reducing anxiety and maximizing pleasure in both solo and shared sexual experiences! Discover how to immerse in the sensations in your body and reconnect with your body as an instrument of pleasure. You'll receive actionable tips and skills that will help you get out of your head and become a more skilled lover while increasing your own capacity for pleasure!
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April 10th in Oakland
Also available as an on-demand rental
Empower yourself with the know-how and tools you need to have secure and fulfilling non-monogamous relationships. Discover tools for navigating jealousy and how to support a partner when they're feeling jealous. Examine power dynamics in and across various types of relationship structures, and learn how to empower all participants. Explore techniques for discussing fears and needs and negotiating agreements with lovers and partners. Gain tips for having healthy dynamics with metamours (your partners’ partners). Up level your ability to maintain multiple nourishing relationships! Also available as an on-demand rental!
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April 24th-27th in Sonoma
Also available as an on-demand rental
Do you and your partner miss that old feeling of excitement and passion that has faded into complacency and predictability? Struggling with different libidos, relating to sex like it’s a chore, and feeling rejection and resentment are just some of the challenges couples in long-term relationships face. When intimacy gets stagnant it can be hard to find ways to reconnect sexually that feel genuine and pleasurable. Escape the distractions of daily life and immerse yourselves in a transformative 3-night, 4-day retreat and reignite passion, rebuild intimacy, and create a sustainable foundation for lasting connection.
You will:
* Learn how to get out of the anxious-avoidant dynamic, cohabitator-coparent roles, and the pressure-rejection cycle
* Uncover the various libido blockers that get in the way of your turn on, pleasure, and intimacy and how to overcome them
* Explore how to make verbal, physical, and romantic bids for intimacy that will allow you to effectively woo your partner
* Discover how to create fun and exciting intimacy dates with a menu of ways to connect authentically and without pressure.
* Acquire an array of practices that will support you to rediscover your turn on and increase your capacity for giving and receiving pleasure.
* Receive the 35 page Sustainable Intimacy booklet that will enable you to identify your specific intimacy blockers, engage in self-reflection exercises, and record the specific practices that will empower you to continue to nurture your intimacy.
You’ll also have the ability to:
* Eat delicious, local organic food that meets your dietary restrictions
* Lounge in a big, beautiful heated pool and hot tub and immerse in nourishing nature
* Rest in hammocks under the trees and take in stunning vistas on hillside swings
* Explore the trail system that winds through the property
* Take yoga, movement, and mindfulness classes
* Take a bonus workshop on romantic, passionate, and dominant touch
* Participate in a sensual soiree
* Add on couples massages
There are options for camping, glamping, and gorgeous private rooms, including one that has a private sauna and soaking tub overlooking the woods! Check out the detailed schedule, photos of the property and lodging options, and more!
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May 4th in Oakland
Also available as an on-demand rental
Givers will learn how to discover what turns their lover(s) on and explore a wide range of techniques for maximizing pleasure. Receivers will learn how to surrender into sensation while also taking a more active role in cultivating their own pleasure. Discover all the nerve pathways involved so you can understand the different kinds of orgasms possible as well as science-based techniques for how to explore them. Plus, there's a thorough live demo so you can see all the skills put into action. Both individuals and couples are welcome!
How to Be a Feminist in the Bedroom
Navigating Non-Monogamy Level 1
Mastering Non-Monogamy Level 2
Refining Your Sexual Intuition
Repairing Ruptures in Relationships
Sexual and Emotional Intimacy Skills (8 week course for individuals and couples)
Sustainable Intimacy: Reignite the Flame for the Long Game (4 week course for couples)